Today we’ll be looking at the process called “anchoring”. This is the process that links events in our lives that become associated to intense emotional states with consistent repetition. For example, is there a certain song that brings back memories of a particular person with whom you were once in a relationship? This is because while you were in the peak of an emotional state, the sound of this music was playing. So, you remember the feelings of that long ago moment once again when you hear the music.
Anchoring is part of our lives. We’re constantly learning to associate and create meanings out of things that are happening around us and this is usually occurring on a level of unconscious awareness. We’ll be looking at how to understand anchoring so we can take control of the process and use it to anchor what we want, when we want. Wouldn’t it be useful to anchor yourself to feel great about exercise or eating vegetables (if you don’t feel great about those things already?) Or get rid of negative anchors currently connected to things you really don’t want to do, but you know are good for you?
Mastering this skill can virtually change any area of your life very quickly. Here’s how to create positive anchors.
1). The secret of anchoring yourself is to first get yourself into an intense emotional place. For example, if you stand, breathe, smile, gesture or make statements you make when you’re really excited, this will help the anchor process.
2). Now, create a “trigger” by doing some unique action over and over. This could be snapping your fingers, pressing your fingernail into the side of your hand (just firmly enough to feel it strongly), saying the word excellent, each time you feel you’re at the peak of excitement, repeating it dozens of times increasing your emotional intensity.
3). Now, change your state. Relax and change your focus for the moment.
4). Finally, practice what you’ve just learned by using the trigger you just conditioned yourself to use. You should feel your body snapping right back into that peak feeling.
Now, once we create an anchor we want, what if you want to get rid of one that’s driving you nuts?
To “collapse” a negative anchor
1). First, create a series of positive anchors. These can be tapping the side of your arm, or one of the ways mentioned above.
2). Then, if the negative anchor was a certain word or touch, deliberately fire off the positive and negative anchors simultaneously. This will collapse the negative association. If you’ve done it correctly, you will have trained your brain to have a stronger anchor association to the new anchor than the old one. Repeat several times to strengthen the response.
Finally, how about another great way to change a pattern? This is called a Swish Pattern.
1). First, identify the behavior you wish to change and then see the undesirable behavior in your mind’s eye. Let’s say you want to change biting your nails.
2). Next, create a picture of yourself performing the new behavior. (Not biting your nails and letting them grow).
3). “Swish” the two pictures so that the undesirable behavior automatically triggers the resourceful one. To do this, make a clear, big bright picture of the undesirable behavior, then in the bottom right-hand corner of THAT picture, make a small dark picture of the new way you want to be. Now, take that small picture, and in less than a second, expand it in size and brightness and burst it through the first picture of the behavior you no longer desire. As you do this, say the word whoosh! with all the passion and enthusiasm you can.
4). Speed and repetition are the keys to this process. Now, as quickly as you can, do this five or six times – and have fun doing it. The message to your brain is, “See this? Whoosh! Do this. See this? Whoosh! Do this, etc.” until the old picture automatically actually triggers the new picture; the new states and thus the new behavior becomes a natural part of your life.
Now, learning this was exciting. It doesn’t take years of therapy to fix some of these things, unless you want to go that direction. Why would you? It does take attention and conscious effort.
These tools and skills are really designed to produce results quickly and I hope you’ll take the time to get involved with this program. Thanks very much for reading this.